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I broke up with him WARNING DUB-CON

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chpeverill-conti's picture
on July 19, 2016 - 9:05pm

after a year, i started getting nervous about hanging out with him. I loved him, I did, but now I know I deserve more than what I'm getting right now. This is what I'm sending him, warning for dub-con:

so this isn't easy but I've been considering breaking up with you. The thing is, you've been very rough with me recently. I don't think you meant to, but you have. And it makes me worried and a little scared when I tell you to stop and you keep tickling me, playfully hitting me a little too hard, or pushing and pulling me, or taking my clothes off me when I say I'm not in the mood (even if we don't end up doing anything and we just lay in bed like that). If you have any ideas of how to fix this, please let me know, but otherwise, I don't feel free with you like I used to. and hearing the way you talk to some people... it makes me really uncomfortable. Please get back to me so we can talk about this and see if there's a solution of if it's time to end it.

Shit I can't belive I just sent this. I think it's good I gave an option for him to figure out how to fix it. I just don't feel as safe with him anymore. he keeps calling people the r word, the fa word (the one against gay people), "that's so gay" stuff like that. all these terms are words against me, or a member of my family. I just feel so done sometimes, i think this was something i needed to do. I gave consent for some stuff, but other minor sexual advances felt different,,, I never said no,,,, but I never said yes....idk this might be getting a little heavy to post on a public blog where for all I know people have triggers with this stuff and I don't want to upset anyone
if anyone has the time some support would be much appreciated. I'm just worried now.
GoOdnight, guys